A quote many are familiar with. A truth that just keeps ringing in my brain over and over again.
Let’s see at 27 years old I thought I would have been married for roughly 2 years at minimum, in the house of my dreams built from scratch, lots of dogs, career that I am passionate about and starting a family.
Reality is 27 years old, after five years together Sam and I just bought a house and are living together alone for the first time. We have one of our dogs, I have no job and no start of a family.
Now I know that I have a good life, I am VERY grateful for the life I have and the life I have had up until this point. It does not mean that I do not compare my life to others. From the moment we wake up to the moment that we go to bed our lives are filled with comparison.
On social media we think it is best practice to go and follow all of the people that inspire us and do what we want to be doing. What I have learned is that is entirely the opposite of what we should do. The reason being is we see their continued success and while there is excitement in that, it also leaves us to be more susceptible to the “Why not me?”
I would love to follow all of the yogi’s, dog mom’s, entrepreneurs, beachbody coaches, and even a lot of the kick-a** women I have met. But the reality is I know that I am not in a place where I can cheer them on without self-doubting. So I start in little bits because the reality is that no single person’s life is perfect. Even if we know them in person, even if we see them on a daily basis, no one hands their dirty laundry out to dry.
In the same respect, I try and be as authentic as possible. But just like not everyone in town needs to know what is going on in my life (not even family!) the entire social media world doesn’t need to know either. It doesn’t mean I’m perfect, it definitely doesn’t mean I’m close, or that I have all my stuff together.
I am a human being with flaws just like the rest of the world. Can you imagine a world where we all stopped comparing ourselves? Start today and try and break the horrible habit with me.