Go figure right? By the time you are reading this it’s January 8th and many of you have started making yourself a brand new person with your New Years’ Resolutions.
My question is what’s wrong with the person you are? I’m not saying don’t go and set goals for yourself but just because it’s a new year doesn’t mean that’s what you HAVE to do. If we’re going based off that then tomorrow’s a brand NEW day, why not start whatever resolutions then?
I realized some time ago how new years became a toxic thought spiral. It’s the time of year where everyone amps up to set resolutions and keep them. So if they fail at going to the gym every day each week in a month what happens? Do they give up and say “Well I tried”? I know many that have and then beat themselves up, all themselves a failure and say “Well I just can’t do it.” I say to that individual, YOU ARE WRONG! I can do it but you know what?! Life happens! You get sick, your schedule gets full, and some days you’re just damn tired. Well, you are a HUMAN BEING; not a SUPER human so cut yourself some slack, wake up to the new day tomorrow and try again.
For instance, the month of January I committed myself to doing the 30 Yoga Challenge hosted by Yoga with Adrienne. It’s day 5 and let me tell you I have not done the yoga sequence in two days. Friday I was exhausted from shoveling myself out and yesterday I had a boot camp/yoga event in the AM and a party in the evening. Getting home at 10pm, while I’ve done yoga that late before, I was exhausted. So do I feel like crap because I haven’t kept up my end of the bargain? Yep! For some reason I think that Adrienne knows I haven’t done it, that the Yoga with Adrienne community knows I haven’t done it and they’re going to think less of me. Is this true?! HELL NO! It is entirely in my head, and if they do feel that way well, it is their problem.
In the few short days of 2018 so far I have realized that my goal isn’t to complete something consecutively per day, my goal each day is to be active in some way. Whether this may be yoga, working out, hiking, snow shoeing, shoveling (lets face it it is an activity) or simply going for a walk. I want to be active every day, I want to get my body moving and stretching.
What I am trying to say with this post is set goals for yourself, or if you wish call them resolutions. Make them every single day, don’t think you need to wait for a new year to occur to create them. I am constantly adjusting my goals, I have a Passion Planner, that I never thought I would ever use, to help me do so. My mom had gotten me one as a gift a few years ago and I thought it was a great idea but was entirely confused as to what to do with a blank slate. I mean literally a blank slate, no dates, no holidays marked, NOTHING! It didn’t even have cute little designs in it. What it did have were quotes every week to help guide me and suggestions on what I could do that week to give thanks or reach out to those I love.
We may feel that each new year is a blank slate, and sometimes that is true but it’s not because it is January 1st. It is because we decide it to be, just like we decide that tomorrow is going to be a better day then today. So I ask of you, know that you are a human being who can only physically and mentally control so much. Recognize that goals will and can change and it’s a beautiful thing. Most of all, I ask that you realize your “New Year” can start at any time that you wish; it isn’t determined by the date January 1st, it is determined when you say “It’s a New Year for me” and you choose to start changing and going after those goals.
I can tell you right now that my “New Year” started July 10th, 2017 when I started this blog. I decided to change and share my thoughts, actions, fears, and life with those who would read it. My New Year started then as I decided to get out of my shell and put myself out there in an entirely new way. My New Year started with this blog because I decided then to work on a life goal of creating a community where others felt like they were not alone.
Happy 2018 everyone! I look forward to sharing my year with you and hearing about yours!