Rejection, not the easiest thing to swallow especially when we put ourselves out on a limb.
A lot of people in my life lately have talked with me and said the biggest reason they are not doing something or not going after what they want is because they fear being rejected. Now this may be going out for a new job, a new relationship, or simply just asking somebody a question. When I have talked to them most often my response is “Don’t be afraid, the worst that can be said is no.”
Keep in mind that I say this after knowing my own rejections and continuing to face them. Remember my fear post a few weeks ago? Heck, every time I write a new post I face my concerns of rejection. The questions of:
Who will like what I read?
Who is going to say “this isn’t good enough she shouldn’t be writing”?
Who is going to call me a phony?
These questions among many others run thru my brain. The feeling of rejection is not an easy one to get thru. Feelings of rejection can come from anywhere in your life and yes sometimes the worst thing someone can say is the word “No”. Those two little letters can most definitely pack a huge punch. As a kid the word No is a death sentence, “Mom can I please have this cookie” being told we can’t is horrible!
When I am faced with the possibility of rejection I try and look at it holistically in the sense that if rejection comes then it wasn’t meant to be and there’s a lesson in it.
This past year I applied for and went thru a long interview process for a job on a team that I really wanted. Due to skills the other individual already had they ended up getting the job over me. It hurt, it sucked, it took the opportunity away of getting out of customer support. However, I realized that I just wasn’t supposed to be in that position, there was something else coming along. This past month I just started my dream job at the company I’ve spent the last three years working in.
When a relationship or friendship hasn’t worked in the past, it hurts, I cry, I get angry and then I let go. Realizing the lessons I learned and realizing that the rejection from that person saves me in the long run. This letting go may take some time and I can’t say that I always recognize the lessons right away but they are there.
You may think I’m silly but what is our life if we don’t put ourselves out there? I won’t say that I am perfect and always face it head on, sometimes it takes a lot of pep talk, conversations with friends, and reminding myself I’ll learn something regardless
With or without rejection there is always a lesson to learn. With rejection it can be an even bigger and better lesson to grow and become a stronger individual.