Grace

In times where things seem to be out of our control, I find this is the time when we are our HARSHEST critic. We have incredibly high expectations of what we should and can accomplish. If we don’t complete everything we had intended on doing then we have “failed”.

Over the last year, I have picked up the phrase “Give yourself grace”. I have found the weight of that incredibly profound and hard hitting. Giving myself grace is not cutting myself slack, IT IS giving myself permission to be kind, to take things slowly, and to be compassionate to myself.

During this pandemic I’ve found myself saying it a bit more then I would have expected. Yes, per my last post, I had set up a bit of a schedule for myself. However, on my days off, I haven’t pushed myself to get up at the crack of dawn like I normally would. I like routine, I like starting the day early and getting things done. Right now though, we are being gifted time to slow down.

For this reason, I’ve given myself the grace to slow down, to savor waking up slowly and looking out my windows in the morning. After I got in a single car, minor accident a few weeks ago I gave myself the grace to rest. I gave myself the grace to cry and be upset that I couldn’t seek physical comfort from my family.

We are our hardest critics on whatever normal days were occurring prior to this pandemic. What good are we doing in continuing to be these critics. What good are we doing for ourselves in continuing this toxic process?

Give yourself the grace to:

  • Loosen your routine
  • Love how you are in the present
  • Be angry
  • Be sad
  • Cry
  • Scream
  • Sleep
  • Ask for help
  • Look at yourself in the mirror
  • Stay in the sunshine a little longer
  • Say “No, this doesn’t serve me”
  • Say “Yes, I need this right now”
  • Take a bath
  • Take a deep breath
  • Lean on others

I could continue this list, it could go on for miles. I have cried almost every day during this pandemic. This is incredibly hard for me as I’ve always been told I’m “too soft”. I have allowed myself the grace to cry, because if I don’t my depression and anxiety kicks in.

Giving yourself grace is about being willing to allow yourself to say “I need this, this it what serves me in this moment.” This is the most important of times to give yourself grace, kindness, compassion, love and understanding. Do this for YOURSELF, I beg of you.

Intimidated and Inspired

The other day I got a response to my blog post! Someone took the time to tell me they read it and empathized about losing Simba. WHAT! Do people actually read my blog? They don’t just “like” my picture announcing it. Who would have thought?

In all reality, though that one piece of feedback got me thinking as to why I stopped writing. Correction, why I stopped sharing my writing. I went through my internal roll-a-dex and realized that once again I was feeding into “Why should I keep writing? What do I have to share that hasn’t been shared a million times over?”

In comes my boss babe badass self saying:

NEWS FLASH everyone in the world feels that way in some way or another so get over it! Pull up your big girl pants and get to writing.

(You think I make up my badass self I don’t, I can explain in detail how I look in this version and there are days I feel like her 100%)

So, here I am writing. To tell you that we compare almost every day of our life. We think that because that person has done it (there are over 500 million blogs in the world) then we can’t possibly have something to offer. 

This pandemic has me re-thinking a lot of things. It has me re-evaluating what I want to focus on in life and what brings me joy. I’ve been participating in an intuitive mentorship that has been opening my soul (and eyes) to new experiences and better understanding. My yoga teacher training is being re-adapted to encompass this “new” world but even that has me second-guessing what I should be doing. It makes me wonder if I’m cut out to be a yoga teacher. Then I remember my yoga practice truly began at home with Yoga with Adriene. There are still days where I pull up her Youtube Channel and hit play.

So today I am choosing to STOP my comparison and BUILD UP the people I’m comparing myself to. The people who I look at and some days just go “I’ll never be that good” or “I could never do that”.

Here we go:

Kelly Rich – Is one of the most beautiful people I have met and a true gem. She is currently my Intuitive Mentor and has helped me do a lot of soul searching since I met her last October. She has helped me comfortably dive into my spiritual practice and be a gentle supporter of inquiries. She has her own global practice and created Bug Light Yoga in South Portland, ME. She also recently started a podcast sharing her wisdom, messages, and important conversations called Own Your Intuition. Her willingness to step into her soul’s calling, do the work, and be open to sharing with others is truly amazing.

Brittany – Author/Writer/Creator of espressoandfit. Obsessed with eSpresso (don’t you dare say eXpresso to her), red wine, dogs, and health; her gentle nature and hustle are admirable. I originally saw Brittany at an event in Philadelphia, PA called The Good Fest. I say I saw because I didn’t introduce myself despite taking an elevator with her in our hotel. It truly wasn’t until after I was going through the Good Fest’s Instagram I recognized her and began following her. I found her honesty and raw “realness” refreshing and as a yoga teacher was interested in her journey. Following Brittany has been inspiring for my writing and yoga practice.

Amy Currie – Owner/Operator of Fit Justice in Portland, ME. I’ve known Amy for almost 4 years. She is a kickass boss babe, kind human, pizza lover, and one of the best people I know. I love watching Amy’s stories and reading her posts because she laughs at herself about as much as I do. She also is incredibly inspiring with her commitment to her health and training as well as those of her clients. She’s honest and real about struggles that can cause setbacks in one’s journey. Her message is also that of BALANCE which is incredibly important to me as someone who works hard to not shame myself into “healthy” habits. For many years I have thought about being a personal trainer and if I choose to one day maybe she’ll be my mentor 😉

Michelle Neujahr – Owner of Nu-Yar, I have known Michelle for 8 years. (WOW!) Michelle was my teacher of Entrepreneurship when I was attending Southern Maine Community College. She is a Business Teacher at Southern Maine Community College and a Business Consultant. She is a friend, confidant, mentor, and no-BS human being. Next to my mom, Michelle has been one of my biggest cheerleaders since I’ve known her and is constantly pushing me to be a better version of myself. Michelle still impacts my life daily; she truly inspires me to show up as the best version of myself, be honest, and learn from my mistakes.

These women are the ones filling up my soul the most at this time. These are the ones who make me strive to be better and inspire the words that I write. They help me evaluate where I am coming from and the messages I wish to share.

I hope in sharing them with you I’ve shared some inspiration. I hope that you feel better about comparing yourself and know that you’re not alone when you do so. The next time you find yourself in “comparison mode” take a moment to write down or think about WHY you’re comparing and what that person may be teaching you or challenging you instead.

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So you are quarantined…

Hello Everyone

It has been quite some time since I’ve written much of anything. I had begun writing Simba’s story and it just doesn’t feel quite ready to share with the world.

For those who don’t know me or follow me on social media. Quick recap:
– Simba was a 10 month old Siberian Husky Sam and I adopted. We loved him and cared for him for two months before we suddenly had to put him to sleep.

ANYWAYS

Since Simba I have taken a lot of time to myself. While I have been on my social media platforms I haven’t shown up how I had been previously.

Then COVID-19 happens and I feel this URGE to be present and to show up for others. To make them feel not alone in a time full of isolation.

After some of my own anxiety and panic attacks I was finally able to sit within the stillness of everything that is going on. In sitting in the stillness, thank you quarantine measures, I reflected back to this time last year. GUYS I’M IN THE SAME SPACE!

Granted I have a job currently but with fewer days in the actual office. I work in a vet hospital so we are “essential” but we are split into teams to limit exposure. Last year at this time I was unemployed due to choice. I had left my 40 hr a week job with benefits and amazing colleagues to move with Sam to where we are living now. In this realizing I had an immediate AH-HA moment and asked myself;

“What did I do with my time last year?”


When I asked myself this question I realized, I need to share this with others. During this time of quarantine many are isolated at home with or without loved ones, with or without jobs to help occupy them and with or without children to assist in “homeschooling”. My mind is blown on that level alone.

I have profound gratitude for the fact I have a job that is considered “essential”. I have profound gratitude for the ability to buy groceries. I have profound gratitude that I have a partner who knows it is incredibly hard for me to experience this LIFE ALTERING event away from my family. I have profound gratitude for my dogs who encourage me to get outside (let’s be honest they make me get outside because I really prefer to not have pee pads in my house).

Regardless of this gratitude however I recognize and empathize with the difficulty of being isolated and unable to be in your “normal” routine. Whether by choice or not being alone, being out of your routine is hard. While I may be late to the game below are some “tips” I have for doing our best to continue on every day without losing our minds.

  1. CREATE a routine – I am sure most of you have a daily routine during your “normal” schedule. If you’re not working then find things to align your day with, don’t just allow yourself to sleep in every day, set up times to read/workout/do yoga/run/chat with friends and STICK TO IT
  2. KEEP IN TOUCH – In this age of technology we have so much at our fingertips. I facetime my mom daily REGARDLESS. However, I have found myself using it more often with my friends and extended relatives in order to keep my sanity.
  3. MOVE your body – As addictive as sitting in front of the computer or TV screen can be remember this is not “technically” a vacation. If weather allows get outside and walk, do something with others in your household.
    – Find an at home workout or utilize SO MANY studios that are using online platforms to offer their classes. This is HUGE for me as so many of these studios are small businesses, many I care about, as well as it offers you the ability to try new things without being in the “group” setting. You can do it in your own home! I know so many people who don’t try new things because of the fear of being judged in a group setting. NOW is the PERFECT time to try the new fitness class without that fear because you can ALWAYS shut the camera off.
  4. ALLOW – Just simply allow, you’re going to say “What the F*** does that mean?! I am not into whatever your saying.” Are you a person who NEVER takes naps and feels the need to? Do you feel the need to socially isolate yourself? Do you feel the need to reach out more than you normally would to friends/family/people? Do you want to spend time learning something? ALLOW all of this and anything else to happen. This is an unprecedented and hard to navigate time. Allow yourself to feel your emotions, have your concerns, explore interests, and WANT to be in contact with others.
  5. DISCOVER – I’ve seen people posting about discovering/learning new things. One individual decided they wanted to take this time to learn calligraphy, another learning to play the ukulele. Discover something that you have longed to learn or gain knowledge about but have made the statements of not having the time.
  6. GET DRESSED – Even if it is just one day out of the week. Make it the day you have to do the mandatory grocery shopping and braving the possible masses. Don’t just lounge around in your pj’s all day.
  7. PLAN your food – I’m not saying full on meal prep (unless that’s your thing, then do it!) I am saying don’t just treat it like it’s spring break in junior high. I get many of us are stress eating, allowing ourselves more snacks/treats then we normally would. We’re humans who when bored/stressed can very often turn to food. I’m right there with you! My “food” of choice has been wine, I’ve had more wine since this whole thing started then I have in months. Take the time to plan a meal, or plan the snacks you have in your house. It may just help the stress/boredom eating, it also may help with tip #3!

We are in a challenging, fearful, and unprecedented time. Despite all of that I have hope of what will come after.

I hope that this helps whomever may need to read this. ❤

Expectations Part 2

I didn’t expect I would ever complete a “Part 2” post but I am realizing some topics of worth revisiting. The topic of expectations is one that I don’t think will ever stop. I actually have been compelled to write about expectations again exactly a full year after I wrote about them the first time. (You’ll read it a a bit later). The universe can be funny, but let’s dive in!

We live in a world that is filled to the brim with expectations. We are taught to have expectations of ourselves, of society and those we surround ourselves with. I covered this specific generalization last year, but after the year I’ve had I’m ready to dig in a bit more.

First off, no matter how clear you think your expectations are, think again! I know the best rule of thumb is to not have any expectations, well…. it is a goal I have, does that count?! Really though, everyday for almost four months I have had to re-evaluate the expectations I have of the other human being currently in my life, aka Sam aka my boyfriend aka not someone who I’ve ever lived with.

We lived in two different households, raised two different ways, and live life in two different ways. We each have things that in our relationship and within our home life that matters more than some. For instance, I grew up with you make dishes in the kitchen you clean them (ask my mom and dad though, definitely not perfect there!) Not saying Sam was not but it simply doesn’t bother him to have dishes piled in the sink (for me it is like nails on a chalk board.)

Silly right?! Me being me, I had the expectation that he would just adjust to “my ways” (first no no) and pick up after himself and not leave dishes everywhere.

WRONG

Instead I just would do them or get irritated, frustrated, upset and take it as a sign he didn’t care (second no no). When I got really fed up I would finally make a passive aggressive comment, get snarky, or..well really just those two (third no no).

We hadn’t communicated the expectations of the roles we held within our new relationship of living together. There it is the fun C word.

This is one small instance and example of how our predetermined expectations and habits can influence the encounters we have with our significant others or just people in our life. Sam does help with the dishes and one of my biggest lessons was learning that I can expect Sam will do the dishes when he wants to, not always when I ask him too. Is that okay? HELL YES!

We hear people say, “pick your battles, figure out what you can live with”. It’s a true saying and it doesn’t even apply to just the actions people take. It also applies to how people speak to us.

I was recently conversing with a friend about relationships. They shared (towards the end of the conversation) the realization they had of their partner expressing love to them. This friend told me they expected their partner to say something to make them feel supported and loved in a specific way. Their partner wasn’t doing it the way they expected but was showing up in their relationship differently that still spoke of love.

Sometimes we wish to hear our partner say something to help lift us up the 5 cm to stand a little taller that day and it doesn’t happen.

One day, I had taken a shower and was feeling a little down. After I got out of the shower I had asked Sam if he thought I was beautiful, he looked at me and said “Not when you look like a wet dog” I pouted and laughed at the same time, I was a little hurt but later on I thought about it and said what else could I have expected him to say?

Let’s be honest we never look 100%, we never act 100% and we are never 100% lovable. How can we expect others to speak how we want them to, act how we want them to, or do what we want them to without first understanding our expectations set us and them up for failure.

I can’t promise there won’t be a part three to writing about expectations but I can promise you I’m human and I’m working every day to acknowledge mine.

Purpose

For as long as humans have roamed the earth we have all, in one way or another, tried to determine what purpose is.

Whether it is our life’s purpose, the purpose of a tool, the purpose of an education, we are always looking to find the purpose in something and/or someone. We seek out to figure out what we/it is “good for”, the impact we/it have on this world, this life, this day.

During my half marathon training I took to listening to podcasts during my long runs. Mind you, I was always a music while you run person but after 6 miles the music starts to get old. One of my favorite podcasts to listen to is “The School of Greatness” hosted by Lewis Howes. During a long run I listened to this one episode where he hosted Trenton Shelton entitled “You Were Born on Purpose“.

The biggest take away I had from this podcast was his statement of:

I am purpose

He states that we are all in search for a purpose, what if instead we believe we were simply born on purpose. Our life is the purpose.

My takeaway was that if we believe that we are already living in our purpose, we do not need to go in search of purpose to feel that we are complete. Our purpose is to wake up everyday and move forward, be present, and live in gratitude.

Some days WILL BE harder than others, it is how life works. If we continue to wake up every day striving to find the purpose to our life my biggest fear is that we will let life slip right on by.

Recently, I went to the Beachbody Summit. It is a yearly summit where over 20,000 Beachbody coaches attend learn new skills and listen to amazing speakers. This year I completely became a fangirl because Rachel Hollis spoke to us! I won’t lie it was one of the biggest highlights of my weekend.

One of my favorite pieces though was our second speaker who I had never heard of before, Jade Simmons, she is a classically trained pianist become motivational speaker. First of all, an amazing musician, but her words spoke volumes. One thing she said was:

“Purpose is what happens to others when you do what you do”

Just read that again.

Now read it one more time.

When you read it what do you envision? How does it make you feel? What does it make you think?

When I heard this quote I thought “HELL YES!” If we walk, talk and live with purpose it reverberates to others! When we believe we are purposeful, that we are here for a reason, people feel that.

We do not have to seek out our purpose externally, it is within every single one of us.

Addicted to Breath

It amazes me, truly amazes me, how impactful taking two deep breaths can be on a person. It amazes me, how if you focus on your breath your nervous system and anxiety can be adjusted.

From a young age we are told when upset to take a deep breath. I can attest to this as when I’ve babysat or been around parents with infants crying they say exactly that. Actually, it is more of a question asked, but you know what happens?!

The child LISTENS! They listen, they begin to take a deep breath, they start to calm down and then are able to listen to what the parent, guardian, or babysitter are telling them.

Slowly over time being asked to take a breath became being told to take a breath by someone of authority if we were emotional. (I don’t say upset because we all have been told it in varying degrees). I would be lying if I said that I didn’t get fired up once in a while if someone told me to take a breath.

The difference is I have become addicted to breathing. I have become addicted to the way it calms me down, addicted that natural ability to defuse my emotions, addicted to the ability to take a natural pause.

After taking two different style yoga classes in the last week I became even more aware of this addiction. One instructor taught a basic vinyasa flow with guidance and focus on breath and movement. The second instructor taught at a much more advanced level and didn’t queue breath and movement together. While I embraced the challenge of the second one I almost walked out.

Then I remembered that I control my own breath. So instead of continuing with the rest of the class I allowed myself a minute. I sat back in child’s pose and focused in on my own breath.

In doing some more research I was re-educated on the fact that shallow breathing is tied to our fight or flight instinct. Shallow breathing is most often a factor/result of stress, anxiety, depression and fear. In taking deep breaths it allows the heart rate to become normal, better oxygen flow within your blood stream and helps release the tension within your body.

My breath has helped my anxiety and my fear. It has helped me take a step back from allowing myself to throw my hands up after one week and say “Okay I did it” and beg for my old job back.

Take two deep breaths, then see where you are.  Do you notice a difference in your heartbeat? Do you notice you feel a bit clearer in the mind? Your breath is entirely within our control, there is a lot we do not control in life, but this beautiful gift of breath is one that we do. Use it!

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Am I doing this right?

This thing called life, am I doing it right?

What or who defines if we are doing it right?

Will there ever truly be a definition of what “right” is?

I was telling a friend the other day that “I don’t believe there is normal, I believe there is what society tells us.”  Society tells us that we are doing life right if we have a good job with benefits, we are in a committed and healthy relationship, we are saving money, and we look picture perfect while doing it.

Thankfully, in discussions with my parents and others the only way to know if you are “doing” life right is if you are happy with how your life is.  With everything that has been going on in my life I keep wondering if I’m doing life wrong. What influences these decisions?

SOCIAL MEDIA!

Do not misunderstand me, I love me some instagram. I LOVE supporting other people, especially women who are kicking butt! I see these other women kicking butt and living their best life and I wonder what am I doing in my life for it to not look like that?!

Just like we are all individual human beings with our own uniqueness SO ARE OUR LIVES! I can idolize on the kick ass yogi’s in the world and those who are making their lives devoted to travel but idolizing won’t get me very far.

I need to put into practice what I wish to happen in my life. Does it mean that I will get to whatever level in life they live, maybe! But instead of idolizing them and then getting negative because my life isn’t where theirs is I can flip the switch on mine. I can throw myself into my own yoga practice and get better for myself and continue to inspire myself and possibly people around me.

Maybe you have individuals in your life telling you that you’re “doing life wrong”. It happens, I’ve read many articles on how parents of millenial’s have a hard time understanding our work ethic or our choice in lifestyle. Thankfully, while there may be questions sometimes, I have incredibly supportive parents. I do have friends however who have tougher relationships with theirs, they don’t feel understood by their parents and have been told if they’re not doing X, Y and Z with their life then they are failing. Or worse yet, they’re not actually told by their parents that their failing, they just don’t feel respected or understood by them.

GUESS WHAT?! I give you the permission to say you are not failing at life!

People may say we are spoiled to have the choices that we have, I could agree to this. I recognize that we do probably have more choices than those who came before us. I can recognize that this sometimes may make us feel “entitled”.

However, I think we have every right to take a break. We have every right to go after our passions. We have every right to screw up, pick ourselves up, and restart. I say this to anyone

I’m here to say, you are doing it right, you are doing it exactly how, where, and when you are supposed to. If you are in a hard place remember that it is only permanent if you allow it to be.

 

The Universe Listens

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Last fall, in discussing our future options after determining that we would in fact move to Belfast, I asked Sam “What do you think about me taking a month off?”

Little did I know that just saying it, no no no back up, just thinking it the universe heard me.

When I made the decision to leave my previous job I had nothing lined up. I had no prospects and when people asked “What are you going to do?” I simply said, “I’m not sure, I’m open to anything.” While there were days during this month and a half off that were difficult I worked on staying open during the entire time.

I choose to believe in the universe but you could believe in god, buddha, the cosmos, you name it. Regardless, many of your thoughts provide an energy that are carried out. This month and a half long sabbatical was not the only instance in my life where my thoughts were heard.

A normal occurrence is simply thinking “I don’t want to do X”, “It’s not going to be a good day”, “I’m going to get delayed because that’s just my luck.” Our thoughts create the energy that pushes us forward. Have you ever paid attention to the mornings you wake up and say “It’ll be a great day!”, what about when you started saying No to others and began putting yourself first, did you pay attention to how others treated you?

Those are just simplistic things that happen when we change our frame of mind. Our thoughts are heard. I know this sounds out there but it is something that I have come to believe deep down in my soul. I don’t mean nitpick your thoughts because they are thoughts you don’t want your mom hearing.

What I am saying though is pay attention to what thoughts you are having. If you are always saying “I’m broke, I can’t”guess what?! You are broke and you feel like your head financially can’t stay above water. If however, you state “I choose not to spend my money on this now” it’s a choice that you are making to be responsible with your money.

During this stint of unemployment was I fearful of not having money? ABSO-FREAKIN-LUTELY, I had just about $2,500 to my name. Did I stop spending? For a period of time I did but I realized that I stopped spending because I was in fear. I was the squirrel that hoards the last acorn in Ice Age. It wasn’t healthy though, and I realized that the universe is a giver and a receiver. To be abundant I needed to still spend, I do not mean spend out of my limits but I still needed to trust that spending money would bring me money.

My challenge to you today is to think about something that has happened in your life. Can you connect it to a thought you may have had? Did a friend recently appear in your life that you needed? Did you serendipitously get that killer parking spot?

If you feel like it, share with me your stories!

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Why do it?

Why do you do the things you do? Do you do them for yourself? Do you do it for others? Do you do it because it is the norm?

This thought came to me as I was working out one morning.  What you have to understand is I have had a back and forth relationship with “working out” the last year.  I have sporadically been incorporating workouts into my routine.  The most consistent thing I have done is yoga, it has help my life in many ways.

While I was working out though, I asked myself “Why am I doing this?”. It was at the point where, if I had a mirror, I would be looking at myself saying “What the fuck? Why do I get up at 4 a.m. to do this? Sam is upstairs in a nice cozy bed.”

Okay now I choose to get up at 4 a.m. in theory I could wake up later or I could do it in the afternoon.  However, how my life works 4 a.m. is truly the better time as I used to complete homework in the evenings and now I like to have the evenings free to unwind from my day, practice yoga, spend time with friends, spend time with Sam or just be outside now that the weather is starting to turn.

Here is the thing though, my why is this:

  • I am being active
  • I am moving my body
  • I have the ABILITY to move my body
  • I feel better
  • I sleep better

A lot of people ask what got me into running. I had begun running a few years ago and said, “I want to run a 5k but am not sure what I want to support” because there is a 5k for almost every non-profit or group in the world. That same year a friend had been killed in a homicide/suicide the universe being an amazing thing brought me to my first 5k; his family and community created a 5k in his honor. It was my first 5k and I did it for him.

When people ask me why I workout or run or get up so early (even if I don’t have to be), my most constant answer is because I can. I may sound like a broken record when I say this but we are given an amazing beautiful life. I am gifted with good health, a body that is cooperative and moves how I want it to, so why should I not try and do things that others can’t?

This is the same attitude I take into my half marathon on June 2nd. It will be the longest distance I have run but I have hiked it so I know I can do it.

As you go about your day think of your why or your multiple why’s. Are you doing what you’re doing for yourself or for others?

**this may be a multi-part post more to come later**

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A Horrible Habit

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A quote many are familiar with. A truth that just keeps ringing in my brain over and over again.

Let’s see at 27 years old I thought I would have been married for roughly 2 years at minimum, in the house of my dreams built from scratch, lots of dogs, career that I am passionate about and starting a family.

Reality is 27 years old, after five years together Sam and I just bought a house and are living together alone for the first time. We have one of our dogs, I have no job and no start of a family.

Now I know that I have a good life, I am VERY grateful for the life I have and the life I have had up until this point. It does not mean that I do not compare my life to others. From the moment we wake up to the moment that we go to bed our lives are filled with comparison.

On social media we think it is best practice to go and follow all of the people that inspire us and do what we want to be doing. What I have learned is that is entirely the opposite of what we should do. The reason being is we see their continued success and while there is excitement in that, it also leaves us to be more susceptible to the “Why not me?”

I would love to follow all of the yogi’s, dog mom’s, entrepreneurs, beachbody coaches, and even a lot of the kick-a** women I have met. But the reality is I know that I am not in a place where I can cheer them on without self-doubting. So I start in little bits because the reality is that no single person’s life is perfect. Even if we know them in person, even if we see them on a daily basis, no one hands their dirty laundry out to dry.

In the same respect, I try and be as authentic as possible. But just like not everyone in town needs to know what is going on in my life (not even family!) the entire social media world doesn’t need to know either. It doesn’t mean I’m perfect, it definitely doesn’t mean I’m close, or that I have all my stuff together.

I am a human being with flaws just like the rest of the world. Can you imagine a world where we all stopped comparing ourselves? Start today and try and break the horrible habit with me.